Here's a collection of links on how to perform the female physical examination.
OBGYN-101 is a great clinical resource for everything related to women's health; fact cards, sample progress notes, how to perform procedures, etc.
Harvard Medical School has a Virtual Patient Reference Library with a "Woman at midlife", covering Physiology of the Menstrual Cycle and Menopausal Transition, Effects of Postmenopausal Hormone Changes on Target Tissues, Assessing and Discussing Risk with Midlife Women, Screening and Preventive Practices for a 50 Year-Old Woman, Breast Exam, Pelvic Exam, Guidelines for Postmenopausal Hormone Replacement, Abnormal Genital Tract Bleeding.
UCSD's Practical Guide to Clinical Medicine has a portion on the breast exam, and UCLA's Fundamentals of Clinical Medicine has both the breast and gynecologic exam.
More generally, MedlinePlus features Interactive Health Tutorials for patient education.